What is hard for you, it's not what is wrong with you

The other day I heard something that made me stop: What is hard for you, it’s not what is wrong with you. 

As we walk through the roughness of this year and the complexity of each moment, it can become easy to begin to associate with what's hard for us to what's wrong within us. We are dealing with so many decisions, so much grief and loss. Perhaps, a level of unpredictability we never experienced before. In this pursuit to find an unchanging, reliable, steady ground we might get challenged by the difficulty of finding one, at least one that feels familiar. This is where the mind quickly jumps: what's hard becomes what’s wrong. It polarizes, it goes to extremes. We must teach it about nuances, about staying in themiddle. 

Though this season is asking for responsibility, it’s also asking for a restructure from theground up: internally and externally. It's claiming a deeper look into this pursuit for a reliable and (shall I say) illusionary ground. What if it's not a season to find them but rather create new ways to ground? What price we pay when we quickly jump from what is challenging to us to what is wrong with us? We suffer when we can’t recognize thedifference between them. This is where we get rigid, we lose perspective. Can we build not from what is wrong with us but with a tender look of what it's hard for us? Let's invert theoutlook to accommodate where we think we are bad, wrong, inadequate to actually nurture, care, give where it’s challenging. Look closely into the parts of us which are having a difficult time and bring in some space around what we yet don't know, honor what it needs. Listen to what it's saying. Let it be what it is, not less, not more. 

With love,

Mariana